Monday, October 26, 2009
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
When Life’s Not Fair
It's an unfortunate fact that sometimes, life's just not fair. From accidents to breakups to misunderstandings to job losses and even death... bad things do happen to good people. So what do you do when you're faced with a situation you didn't see coming - and didn't ask for?
Maybe it's something that throws you off-course in a way you couldn't have predicted, and brings into question everything you believe? The trick to surviving life's injustices - great and small - isn't in avoiding them. Rather, it lies in how you react once they've happened! Here's a 4-step approach for dealing with those situations in which life simply isn't fair…
Step away
Sometimes in the case of an accident or incident it's worthwhile to write down what you remember immediately - for a multitude of reasons. Trying to actually get some perspective on why it happened or what you can take from it is going to take some time. That's because it's nearly impossible to see things clearly in the immediate aftermath of something negative or surprising. Our heads are too clouded by anger, hurt, sadness or shock for a reasoned, introspective reaction.
So instead of stewing on the details in an attempt to unravel what seems like an unsolvable mystery, allow yourself some breathing room. Step away from what's happened for an hour or a day or a week before attempting to take stock. You're not losing your advantage or your chance to affect the situation by giving yourself a moment or 10 - you're gathering your composure, and improving your chances of making the most of the mishap, or at least showing your best grace under pressure.
Take stock
Now that you've given yourself the chance to calm down and clear your head, you can more accurately assess what went wrong. Rather than placing blame, try to look at it from all angles. Examine what you could have done differently before or after the fact, and try to determine how you will handle disappointments, hurts and other offenses in the future - not in a spirit of guilt, but rather personal growth. Don't make it about some person or entity who "wronged" you. Make it about the behavior you encountered, and what it has to teach you about yourself.
By taking whatever lesson there is to be found in the situation, you make sure your pain wasn't wasted. Whether what you learn is profoundly connected to patterns you've allowed to exist in your relationships, or as simple as the realization that we all need to experience the lows in order to appreciate the highs, you'll want to take note of it.
Next, set forth the intention to grow from this experience by making a plan to address any areas you want to change, and decide how you intend to change them. Set goals for yourself, and ensure you will always know you've done what you could. For example, determine that you will stay calm under pressure, and take people's words at face value. Decide that you will hold up your end of the bargain, regardless of what someone else does.
Speak up
Once you've looked at the curveball that's been thrown your way, taken responsibility for any part you might have had in it, and arm yourself with a plan for combating similar instances in the future. It's important that you express your feelings about the situation. Whether you feel that what happened was unfair, unforeseeable, preventable, cruel or simply something you wish never occurred, getting your thoughts and emotions off your chest will go a long way toward helping you heal. Even if your words fall on deaf ears, you will be able to rest assured that you made yourself clear. Eventually, that will help you to move forward.
On that note, don't fall victim to the desire to change someone's mind - or their heart - by repeating yourself over and over again. Speaking your mind once, clearly, is enough to get your point across. Addressing an injustice more than that could indicate that you're trying to change the outcome rather than trying to clear the air and move on… which might keep you stuck in the same emotional space even longer.
Finally, with the lesson of the mishap learned and your feelings expressed, it's important that you let go of the negative emotions and move on. It may be a little at a time in the case of major life changes, but you can do it.
Continue to remember the plan of action you set, and take positive steps every day toward achieving the goals you've laid out. That's not to say negative situations will not arise in the future, but the more firmly grounded you are in your truths, the easier it will be to move through an unforeseen occurrence the next time around.
Maybe it's something that throws you off-course in a way you couldn't have predicted, and brings into question everything you believe? The trick to surviving life's injustices - great and small - isn't in avoiding them. Rather, it lies in how you react once they've happened! Here's a 4-step approach for dealing with those situations in which life simply isn't fair…
Step away
Sometimes in the case of an accident or incident it's worthwhile to write down what you remember immediately - for a multitude of reasons. Trying to actually get some perspective on why it happened or what you can take from it is going to take some time. That's because it's nearly impossible to see things clearly in the immediate aftermath of something negative or surprising. Our heads are too clouded by anger, hurt, sadness or shock for a reasoned, introspective reaction.
So instead of stewing on the details in an attempt to unravel what seems like an unsolvable mystery, allow yourself some breathing room. Step away from what's happened for an hour or a day or a week before attempting to take stock. You're not losing your advantage or your chance to affect the situation by giving yourself a moment or 10 - you're gathering your composure, and improving your chances of making the most of the mishap, or at least showing your best grace under pressure.
Take stock
Now that you've given yourself the chance to calm down and clear your head, you can more accurately assess what went wrong. Rather than placing blame, try to look at it from all angles. Examine what you could have done differently before or after the fact, and try to determine how you will handle disappointments, hurts and other offenses in the future - not in a spirit of guilt, but rather personal growth. Don't make it about some person or entity who "wronged" you. Make it about the behavior you encountered, and what it has to teach you about yourself.
By taking whatever lesson there is to be found in the situation, you make sure your pain wasn't wasted. Whether what you learn is profoundly connected to patterns you've allowed to exist in your relationships, or as simple as the realization that we all need to experience the lows in order to appreciate the highs, you'll want to take note of it.
Next, set forth the intention to grow from this experience by making a plan to address any areas you want to change, and decide how you intend to change them. Set goals for yourself, and ensure you will always know you've done what you could. For example, determine that you will stay calm under pressure, and take people's words at face value. Decide that you will hold up your end of the bargain, regardless of what someone else does.
Speak up
Once you've looked at the curveball that's been thrown your way, taken responsibility for any part you might have had in it, and arm yourself with a plan for combating similar instances in the future. It's important that you express your feelings about the situation. Whether you feel that what happened was unfair, unforeseeable, preventable, cruel or simply something you wish never occurred, getting your thoughts and emotions off your chest will go a long way toward helping you heal. Even if your words fall on deaf ears, you will be able to rest assured that you made yourself clear. Eventually, that will help you to move forward.
On that note, don't fall victim to the desire to change someone's mind - or their heart - by repeating yourself over and over again. Speaking your mind once, clearly, is enough to get your point across. Addressing an injustice more than that could indicate that you're trying to change the outcome rather than trying to clear the air and move on… which might keep you stuck in the same emotional space even longer.
Finally, with the lesson of the mishap learned and your feelings expressed, it's important that you let go of the negative emotions and move on. It may be a little at a time in the case of major life changes, but you can do it.
Continue to remember the plan of action you set, and take positive steps every day toward achieving the goals you've laid out. That's not to say negative situations will not arise in the future, but the more firmly grounded you are in your truths, the easier it will be to move through an unforeseen occurrence the next time around.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
windows Registry
Every operating system and application needs a place to store configuration settings and user preferences. As computers have become more complex, so have the methods of storing this data. The few settings needed by MS-DOS were stored in the plain text file CONFIG.SYS. DOS programs had to make their own arrangements for storing user settings.
Windows originally used INI files - text files organised in a simple format that could be read and written using special routines available to Windows programs. Windows had one configuration file, SYSTEM.INI, which was used for all the internal settings plus another, WIN.INI, for user preferences. Each application had an INI file, too, usually named after itself.
Windows originally used INI files - text files organised in a simple format that could be read and written using special routines available to Windows programs. Windows had one configuration file, SYSTEM.INI, which was used for all the internal settings plus another, WIN.INI, for user preferences. Each application had an INI file, too, usually named after itself.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Friday, September 25, 2009
Excel’s CONCATENATE Function
In Microsoft Excel, the CONCATENATE function can be used to combine information contained in multiple cells and text strings or to append new text string in existing text e.g., we want to get existing as a URL's,like we have "google" in a cell we can append it with prefix "http://www" and sufix ".com" with the help of Excel's concatenate function.
With the CONCATENATE function, we can create a formula that will merge the information from these two cells so that the full name of each individual will be contained in one cell.
Syntax of the CONCATENATE Function
The basic syntax for the CONCATENATE function is
CONCATENATE(text1, text2, …)
Or
text1 & text2 & …
If you’re using Excel 2007, you can concatenate up to 255 items. Prior versions of the software will only allow you to concatenate a total of 30 cells and text strings.
Example Using the CONCATENATE Function
Those who are using the CONCATENATE function for the first time may try to use one of the following formulas to join the information contained in cells A2 and B2.
CONCATENATE(A2, B2)
A2 & B2
However, this type of construction will cause the first and last names to be joined without a space between,
Instead, we need to specifically instruct the function to insert a space between the two fields using “ “ as an additional text string. That is, our formula would appear as one of the following.
CONCATENATE(A2, “ “, B2)
or
A2 & “ “ & B2
Now, to apply this function to the other rows in the table, you can either copy and paste the formula into all other cells in the new column, or you can use Excel’s column fill feature.
Now if You want to append or edit existing text in column for multiple rows, then we can use this function as......
1. Suppose we have date in D column from D2 to D15.
2.Enter the formula with whatever inputs we want to get results
(suppose we want to get all the rows as a URL's
e.g., prefix "http://www"
text we have "abc"
sufix that we add end of text ".com"
after concatenation it would look like as "http://www.abc.com" )
3.Write the formula to get above result
=concatenate("prefix",cellno,"suffix")
where =concatenate is function name ,
cell no where we will write function
=CONCATENATE("http://www.",D2,".com")
4.Now drag the formula cell till last row.
With the CONCATENATE function, we can create a formula that will merge the information from these two cells so that the full name of each individual will be contained in one cell.
Syntax of the CONCATENATE Function
The basic syntax for the CONCATENATE function is
CONCATENATE(text1, text2, …)
Or
text1 & text2 & …
If you’re using Excel 2007, you can concatenate up to 255 items. Prior versions of the software will only allow you to concatenate a total of 30 cells and text strings.
Example Using the CONCATENATE Function
Those who are using the CONCATENATE function for the first time may try to use one of the following formulas to join the information contained in cells A2 and B2.
CONCATENATE(A2, B2)
A2 & B2
However, this type of construction will cause the first and last names to be joined without a space between,
Instead, we need to specifically instruct the function to insert a space between the two fields using “ “ as an additional text string. That is, our formula would appear as one of the following.
CONCATENATE(A2, “ “, B2)
or
A2 & “ “ & B2
Now, to apply this function to the other rows in the table, you can either copy and paste the formula into all other cells in the new column, or you can use Excel’s column fill feature.
Now if You want to append or edit existing text in column for multiple rows, then we can use this function as......
1. Suppose we have date in D column from D2 to D15.
2.Enter the formula with whatever inputs we want to get results
(suppose we want to get all the rows as a URL's
e.g., prefix "http://www"
text we have "abc"
sufix that we add end of text ".com"
after concatenation it would look like as "http://www.abc.com" )
3.Write the formula to get above result
=concatenate("prefix",cellno,"suffix")
where =concatenate is function name ,
cell no where we will write function
=CONCATENATE("http://www.",D2,".com")
4.Now drag the formula cell till last row.
Friday, August 14, 2009
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